Man sits at a table, drinking his coffee and minding his own business. He has an expensive watch, a tailored suit and he is reading a business journal. He doesn’t seem bothered by anything that is going on around him. The very definition of a confident person.
There are multiple ways to show your confidence. Those who manage to show it anywhere and in any situation they end up in, are generally rewarded with good relationships, jobs and other benefits. So many good things come from being confident and many guides on how to become successful start with “be confident”-line. What does it mean to be confident? How do I become confident? Lets investigate.
If you’ve ever met a person who is confident, you will immediately want to be with that person. These confident people ooze confidence. They are masters of the situation. Funny, good looking and smart. However, it is not a coincidence these people are at home in their own clothes. They know they are the best they can be and are always looking to improve, which makes them seem smart, even if they are not.
Confidence is often mistaken for arrogance, but these are not the same thing. A confident person doesn’t necessarily think he/she is better than everyone else around her/him, he/she is just the best they can be at that moment. Arrogant person is someone who looks down on others, and wants others to fail so they can succeed. Confident person is fine with a little bit of challenge from people around them.
It is all very confusing to me too, but in the end, it doesn’t matter much. We all know more or less what a cool and suave person can be. We all want to be with that person, and we would all like to be that person. Good news is, we can all be that person. Here’s how:
How To Be Confident
Firstly we must fix how you think. Currently you might be thinking to yourself “I can’t be like that confident man over there in the corner, I’m not that kind of a guy”. Well my friend, YES YOU CAN, I can’t help you become confident if you don’t first believe that you can do it. It is a lot about how you think and a lot less about anything else.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF no matter how weird you think what you are thinking right now. It doesn’t matter what other people might be thinking around you, or after you open your mouth. If you never say anything when you obviously want to, you will never succeed. Simply say what’s on your mind and let that be the end of it.
Many times in school and at work there are moments where you are thinking to yourself “I don’t quite get this…” or “I don’t agree”, but nobody says anything. Chances are if you are thinking like that, there is someone else in the room that doesn’t get it either. Don’t be afraid to ask question, what is the worst that can happen, maybe you might be wrong? Well gee, aren’t you glad you asked?
There is no faster way to build confidence than looking in the mirror, figuratively and literally. Are you not smart enough? Read a book on a subject you like. Are you not happy with your body? Start working out. It is amazing how much starting a workout routine can boost your confidence.
Wear clothes that make you feel powerful. Quite simple, people in power always wear suits for a reason: It looks good and it shows they are in fact, in power. This doesn’t mean you should wear a suit necessarily, but you should wear clothes that reflect who you are on the inside. Saggy pants and a hoodie usually don’t do wonders to a person who wants to be approachable, but if it is who you are, then go ahead!
Start talking or writing about things you understand well. It is easy to look confident if you know what you are talking about, and since we are simply trying to improve the level of confidence in you, there really is no better way than building it up doing things you are comfortable doing.
There are many ways to get more confidence, and the tips I gave here are just the tip of the iceberg (heh, heh…). Main point I want you to get from this post is simply be you and don’t be afraid to show it. Don’t be afraid to be wrong either, no one is born with all the knowledge, but we can all work together to come to sensible conclusion(s).